went with Sharon to watch xXx at MidValley today. was hesitant to see it cos i was put off by my ex-colleagues drooling over Vin Diesel. @__@ watched it anyway, the way i watch all other films - analyzing it inside out - heh. i liked the CG effects in some of the scenes. and its a film dedicated to the talent and bravado of film stuntmen. watched it wondering if i could ever work on a film...

later, we met up with Sagau (Nick, as we used to call him back in college) at Syed, Bangsar. one of those usual evenings of ex-classmates having a catch-up. talked about Tony's wake, among other things. Sharon wasn't there, cos she was still in KB. so Sagau and i shared with her some silly stories and goss on who's doing what and working where. sitting at Syed in the lower Bangsar area didn't make me feel the slightest bit among pretentiousness. though it was a different atmosphere sitting at a table (like those at Coffee Bean's) by the sidewalk. a wee bit like French sidewalk cafés ala Malaysiana. ^__^

the strangest bit of the evening wasn't sitting there. it was when a robed Caucasian man came up to Sagau and asked for a donation. he said some kind words in Tibetan (or something), then muttered "You have a lovely wife..." i shot a look at Sharon, hoping i misheard him! apparently Sagau didn't realise this cos he was too busy trying to decline. and Sharon was just laughing out loud. i was sitting next to Nick! and it just made me feel all strange... his wife?! but we laughed it out later when we told Nick this amusing mistake.
as if last week wasn't enough -- while at the wake, and we met up with some of my primary sch. classmates, Chow Keat and Andrew refuse to believe me that Sagau wasn't my boyfriend. @__@

and now i'm his wife?! all laughter aside, we went on to other topics. joking about things here and there. when i suddenly realised Sagau was actually flirting with me! i honestly couldn't believe my ears... i took it as a joke, dramatically grabbed Sharon's forearm and asked "am i hearing right?! is he flirting with me??" Sharon played along and asked him if he's had a long time crush on me or something. he laughed and asked how she could ask him that?! and that she should call him later to ask! @__@ man... these guys are my long time friends, and if they're starting to play a mean joke one me... *shrug*

the night's events sort of left me wondering about relationships in your 20s. people who get married - some to their long time sweethearts, or those after a long relationship marrying the next person they meet. is it all about timing? or just that sudden gap feeling that's there when you've just got everything else in life under control? i come home from work sometimes and wonder what other things there are to look forward to. it's really strange, cos i've been so used to being with my boyfriend or surrounded by friends and all kinds of activities. now, though being in an LDR with Mal, it actually feels like i'm single. *sigh* i don't remember feeling like this in my LDR with Gary. i guess maybe i'm all grown up now. and with Mal, i have a mature, rational relationship. and like Sharon said, Mal is my equal.

nevertheless, there's still something about marriage and commitment that gives me the shivers. there's so much i'd love to do and see on my own. Mal says i like being around people, but when it comes to certain things i'm personally passionate about, i tend to do them on my own, or alone. Quite the opposite of what he's like. one of the things i mentioned to him to make him say this was my intention of visiting Europe one day on my own. maybe on a work-holiday programme... who knows, in the next year or two. hmmm...